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The more i go through life the more i see the importance of self-confidence. Confident people tend to live a much better and happier life compared to the people who are almost always scared out of their wit.
Lets first define self-confidence, according to oxford dictionary it stands for “A feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgement“. Now how do you gain this confidence? I have a really logical mind so i try creating formulas for everything.
After thinking deeply about this topic, this is the GOLDEN formula for self confidence according to me:
Following your moral compass + Getting desirable results = Self confidence
Which you can possibly sum up as self confidence is a direct result of following your truth (or moral compass) and getting desirable results.
In the world, where anxiety issues are at all time high, the only reliable way to counter rising insecurities in people is to teach them to become self-reliant or self-confident. Yes, self confidence can be learned just like any skill in the world.
When you search ‘How to become self-confident google gives you these results”
Now I agree with many of these points but they are missing a key ingredient. You can do all those things and still end up with a pretty shaky self confidence. You know what is the key ingredient that the article is missing? They forget to stress how important it is to know your ingrained belief systems before you start on this worthwhile exploratory journey of a lifetime.
Imagine this, you are stuck in a desert and you don’t know where you have to go to reach the destination. Would it help if i give you the map without telling you where you are located or what’s your starting point. Of course if you are smart, you will figure out the relative compass directions and maybe figure out which way to go but still without knowing your starting point, it would probably take you days to reach the destination.
Okay, Now i will give you my recipe of developing core self-confidence
- Figure out your moral compass and ingrained belief system.
- Let go of a belief that doesn’t serves you. Basically figure out if that belief is a bullshit rule that society fed you while you were growing up.
- Try and develop beliefs that serve you and help you grow into a wholesome individual.
- Write down your core values that you will never compromise no matter what.
- Take actions that align with those values going forward.
That’s it, those are the foundation stones of becoming a self-confident and high self-esteem individual.
This article is still incomplete and there are some intricacies i need to take care of but i really wanted to go ahead and post this as i feel like this deserves to be out there. I will be refining my thoughts and adding more actionable advice going forward.
Cheers, until next time!
